Me: I actually see progress. You have to admit, I look smaller.
Her: I can admit that. But, how much weight have you lost.
Me: 10 pounds last month
Her: Oh.
So guys, if someone is battling something and they are working hard to achieve greater - do NOT say anything that may deter them from continuing on that path.
Ten pounds. Ten pounds. Ten pounds.
You didn't ask about the inches. You didn't ask about the clothing sizes. You asked about the weight. And, apparently it wasn't good enough for you.
The larger problem with shamming is, the stammer rarely sees any issues with their shams. But the shamee hears something extremely hurtful and unnecessary.
Her: you're buying all gym clothes, did you get a gym membership or something?
Me: I work out daily.
Really? Really? Because I am not thin, if I buy gym clothes I have to be just starting my workout plan? Maybe I have been battling weight issues for life (I have). Maybe I lost weight and need new clothes (I did). Maybe I was hoping no one noticed what I was buying because I'm discouraged to begin my workout. Maybe I am just trying to be great. Maybe it's none of your business what I'm buying and why I'm buying it. Commentary - not needed and not welcomed.
Dear everyone that is trying to be better - you can do it! You are amazing! God loves you! You WILL reach your goals.
Love. 😘
