Quotes from TV

"Just remember; even in the bad news, there's good news for someone."

- Greys Anatomy

Love yourself, first

How do you define failure? 

Do you think you failed because you weigh the same as you did a year ago though you told yourself you would lose the weight? Do you think you failed because your mate ended your relationship? Do you think you failed because you didn't get a promotion you've been working for? Do you think you failed because you haven't successfully taken a vacation with the passport you worked so hard to get? 

It took you 5 years to gain the weight. That means you've been working in a (bad) habit cycle for five years. Your default is set to things that keep you the same. It'll take time to break your cycle. You haven't failed, unless you have given up. Don't be so hard on yourself. Every day, set a goal to do something differently than you did yesterday ... unless, yesterday worked. Then, repeat yesterday. 

Your emotional abusive, physically demeaning, less than amazing mate ended your relationship and you feel as if you failed? Listen love, unfortunately, everyone doesn't know how to accept love. Not that you were perfect either, BUT, you did everything you could. It was time. You didn't fail, you succeeded. You successfully loved someone so much so that it was difficult for you to accept that you deserved better because you just wanted to spread love. Selfless. Unconditional. Love yourself now. Strengthen yourself now. Then, choose love again. 

Remember that time you said you didn't love your company? Maybe God didn't promote you because He has something better for you. You didn't fail. You're smarter. You became more tenacious. You developed your skill set. You are better than you were before. Your title doesn't define you. You are successful. You are not a failure. Keep growing. Keep learning. Keep working to become a better you. And, when it's time, you will shift. 

As for that vacation, save that change and take a vacation for your next birthday. You deserve that. 

You are enough.
You are not a failure.
You are a success.
Act like it.
Think like it.
Believe it. 

Love, you, all ways, always.
G. 💕

Where's your faith sending you?

I quit my job in February of 2015. My life literally got flipped upside down in September of 2015. I kept applying for jobs because my faith was weak. When I didn't get any jobs or even callbacks i asked myself and God "what am I doing?" 

In January of 2016 my faith changed. I literally started reading and believing the word of God. My favorite scripture has always been Matthew 7:7 - ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and the door will be open unto you. I asked why I wasn't getting these jobs and what I was supposed to do. He literally said "use your gifts". Doors began opening like crazy when I literally stood on his word and my faith. 

I said all that to say, when you ask God what you should be doing, wait for His answer and then do that. I'm literally faithing it and life is improving. 

Today's job: meal prep. 

Trust God. Use your gifts. Live life. 

Where's your faith sending you?
G. 💕

#garnetism

Never stop loving, yourself included. 

A Little Wisdom

So often we become something for someone. We act like we like Chinese food to go on a date. We act like we enjoy lifting weights because our friends do. We act like we want to dress a certain way because our parents like it. We grow out our hair because someone else said it's cute that way. But, what do we want? 

If we spend our whole lives becoming something for someone else, we'll never become who we were intended to be. Even though someone likes you this way or that way or when you do this or when you do that, there's someone else who needs to love you exactly how you want to be. That someone is you. 

Start loving yourself first. Then like yourself. Then be yourself. The original is always worth more than the copy. 

Besides, you don't want the one that doesn't love you just the way you are. 

Love, you, all ways, always.
G. 💕

Faith it 'til you make it!

"Manipulation comes when you're shifting because the devil makes you think you're losing." 

Trust the process. Trust your sight. Know that you're still heading to that light at the end of this tunnel. 

Faith it 'til you make it. 

G. 💕

Unconditional Love

There is no such thing as passive love. Love is a decision. You really don't fall in love, you make a conscious decision to walk into it with every ounce of your being, and, at that moment, it is everything you have ever wanted. 

Contrary to popular belief, love is not solely romantic or familial. Love is spiritual. Love is emotional. Love is platonic. Love is unconditional. 

In a time where social media serves as our life updates, I believe that love gets lost somewhere between down wifi, a new number, a lost connection and just forgetting that you actually haven't seen that person or heard that persons voice in years - though, you think you know every monumental life event. Thanks, tweetainstasnapapolobook. 

Don't get me wrong, social media is amazing. It has reunited me with friends from camp, elementary school, high school, college. It has served as a life bulletin: baby announcements, wedding announcements, graduation announcements, job announcements, death announcements, dating announcements, party announcements, club announcements, business announcements, new project announcements, move announcements, home announcements, organization announcements, life announcements. 

But, where has the love gone? Nowadays, you can't love people, unconditionally. Well, thats not true. You can. But, its so hard for people to accept it. Why is that? Is it because they know that you don't know whats really going on in their lives? People are so hidden in real life because they are so used to showing their highlight reel online that they can't understand that you love someone as broken as they are. 

Get this, everyone is broken. Everyone has baggage. Everyone has a story hidden behind their smile. But, contrary to popular belief, everyone needs love. And, unconditional love is actually a thing. 

So, today, I charge you to make a choice to love someone with every fiber of your being. They may not be able to accept your love, but keep loving them. Be it a friend, a spouse, a child, a parent, a lover or a stranger, choose love today. We don't know what battle people are fighting but I bet love will help. We don't know what mountain they're climbing but I bet love will help. We don't know what praise they have to share but I bet love will help. We don't know the last time they needed a hug but I bet love will help. 

Sometimes the behind the scenes footage includes court dates, loneliness, death, suicidal thoughts, hunger, past due bills, job loss, weight gain.... or, joy. Sometimes, people love on you because they need love themselves. 

Won't you spread love today?

Love, you, all ways, always.
G.