Love yourself, first

How do you define failure? 

Do you think you failed because you weigh the same as you did a year ago though you told yourself you would lose the weight? Do you think you failed because your mate ended your relationship? Do you think you failed because you didn't get a promotion you've been working for? Do you think you failed because you haven't successfully taken a vacation with the passport you worked so hard to get? 

It took you 5 years to gain the weight. That means you've been working in a (bad) habit cycle for five years. Your default is set to things that keep you the same. It'll take time to break your cycle. You haven't failed, unless you have given up. Don't be so hard on yourself. Every day, set a goal to do something differently than you did yesterday ... unless, yesterday worked. Then, repeat yesterday. 

Your emotional abusive, physically demeaning, less than amazing mate ended your relationship and you feel as if you failed? Listen love, unfortunately, everyone doesn't know how to accept love. Not that you were perfect either, BUT, you did everything you could. It was time. You didn't fail, you succeeded. You successfully loved someone so much so that it was difficult for you to accept that you deserved better because you just wanted to spread love. Selfless. Unconditional. Love yourself now. Strengthen yourself now. Then, choose love again. 

Remember that time you said you didn't love your company? Maybe God didn't promote you because He has something better for you. You didn't fail. You're smarter. You became more tenacious. You developed your skill set. You are better than you were before. Your title doesn't define you. You are successful. You are not a failure. Keep growing. Keep learning. Keep working to become a better you. And, when it's time, you will shift. 

As for that vacation, save that change and take a vacation for your next birthday. You deserve that. 

You are enough.
You are not a failure.
You are a success.
Act like it.
Think like it.
Believe it. 

Love, you, all ways, always.
G. 💕